Psychology Blog
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Why you suffer so much watching the national team: the psychology of World Cup nerves
What happens in your body during a match, why you identify so deeply with the team, and how to handle the nerves and frustration.
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Compulsive buying: when shopping regulates emotions, not need
The cart fills up and the relief lasts only minutes. Discover why you buy to cover anxiety or emptiness, and how to stop.
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The bikini body and body guilt in summer: the emotional reframe you really need
As the heat arrives, so do guilt, comparison and shame about your body. Here's the emotional reframe you really need.
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The grief that returns on special dates: anniversaries, autumn and All Souls' Day
Some months, the grief comes back stronger: the anniversary, autumn, All Souls' Day. Understand why it happens and how to care for yourself.
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Anxiety at Christmas: why family meals set you off
Family holidays reawaken old wounds and roles. Discover why anxiety shows up right at Christmas and how to hold yourself steady.
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New Year's resolutions that actually work: wanting to change vs. believing you should
Why do your resolutions fizzle out before February? The key is genuinely wanting to change, not forcing yourself out of obligation.
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Love or dependency: how to tell a healthy bond from a toxic relationship
Is it love or dependency? Learn to tell a healthy bond from a toxic relationship and to decide from yourself, not from fear.
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Post-holiday depression: why September drags your mood down
September and the return to routine can drag your mood down. Understand why it happens and how to ease the transition without guilt.
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Holiday stress with family: how to set boundaries without guilt
Spending many days in a row with family wears you down more than you admit. Learn to set boundaries and care for yourself without guilt.
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EMDR for emotional dependency: how anxious attachment sabotages your relationships
Why emotional dependency is rooted in anxious attachment and how EMDR helps you process the experiences that feed it.
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Complex trauma vs. PTSD: why your previous therapy didn't work
Differences between complex trauma and PTSD: symptoms, origins, and why your previous therapy may not have worked. Specialized EMDR in Madrid. By Alejandro…
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Love shouldn't hurt: why you're still trapped in a relationship that makes you suffer
Why we believe love hurts, when a relationship is toxic, and why leaving feels so hard. A guide to walking away from a relationship that makes you suffer.…
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Disorganized attachment: when you love someone and fear them at the same time
What disorganized attachment is: symptoms, how it forms and how to work through it with EMDR therapy. Attachment and trauma specialist in Madrid. By…
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How to get over infidelity: why it happens and how it's worked through in therapy
The pain of betrayal is very intense. I explain why infidelity happens and how it's worked through to rebuild trust or heal the wound.
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Social media addiction: the escape that covers up your emotions
Why your phone is so hard to put down, what we cover up with scrolling, and how to take back control without blaming yourself.
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Anger for no apparent reason: why you get irritated and where it comes from
Why you get angry without quite knowing why: the emotional responses we learned as children and how to reshape them. By Alejandro Cabeza, psychologist in…
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The shame that holds you back: where it comes from and how to expose yourself little by little
Why shame blocks us under the gaze of others and how to expose yourself little by little to get your life back. By Alejandro Cabeza, psychologist in Madrid.
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Work addiction: when professional validation covers an emptiness
When finishing projects and your boss's approval become your only source of security. Signs of work addiction and how to rebuild balance. By Alejandro…
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The rescuer game: power roles in a relationship and how to balance them
Power is part of every relationship, including your couple. How to recognize the rescuer, victim or control roles in your relationship and return to an…
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Relapse in an addiction: the loop that's hard to break and how to ask for help
Why addictions keep us trapped in a loop, what makes them hard to recognise, and how to ask for help after a relapse. By Alejandro Cabeza, psychologist in…
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Do you take better care of others than of yourself? The root of your stress
Always putting others first wears you down. Learn to reconnect with what you need and to set healthy boundaries.
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Insecure attachment: why we stay in relationships that hurt us
Our attachment system can lead us to hold on to unhealthy bonds. Learn to recognise it and reclaim your well-being.
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Trauma and defenses: from narcissism to submission
The defenses that emerge after trauma range from a dominant personality to submission. Learn to recognize them.
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Chemsex: living your sexuality in a healthy, conscious way
What chemsex is, the psychological risks it can involve and how to notice how you feel so you can look after your wellbeing.
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What emotional dependency is: types, signs and how to move past it
A clear guide to emotional dependency: what it is, how it shows up and what you can start doing to build healthier bonds.
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What EMDR Is and What It's For: The 8 Phases Explained
A clear guide to EMDR therapy: what it is, how it processes trauma, how its 8 phases work, and when it can help you.
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How to leave a toxic relationship: signs, attachment and first steps
Recognise the signs of a toxic relationship, understand why it's so hard to walk away and discover the steps to leave and ask for help.
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