Therapy for trauma and attachment
In short
- Therapy for complex trauma, childhood wounds and insecure attachment.
- Trauma can come from clear events or from silence and bonds without safety.
- I combine EMDR with an integrative, attachment-focused approach.
- We work at your own pace, from a safe therapeutic relationship.
- In English, in person in Madrid and online.
Trauma does not always come from something "big". Sometimes it is born of silence: of not having been seen, of growing up among bonds where there was never quite any safety. Other times it does come from clearly overwhelming experiences. In both cases it leaves an imprint on the body and on the way you relate to others.
I work on trauma and attachment so that imprint stops governing your present: so you can be close without fear, hold yourself and bond from a safer place. I am here to support you through that process.
The two faces of trauma
The trauma that is seen
An accident, a loss, an assault, a situation that overwhelmed you. Specific events that the body stores and relives in the form of alarm, images or freezing.
The silent (attachment) trauma
The kind that forms, drop by drop, in early insecure relationships: intermittent care, demands, absence or fear. It leaves no clear memory, but it does shape the way you bond and see yourself.
How I work on trauma and attachment
My approach is integrative and focused on trauma and attachment. The foundation is building a safe therapeutic relationship: a place from which your nervous system can, little by little, let go of the alarm.
When there are experiences that keep activating in the present, EMDR therapy helps to process them so they lose their charge. And we also work on what the trauma left in the way you bond: the fear of abandonment or of intimacy, distrust, self-demand or shame.
We do this in individual therapy, at your own pace and without forcing. I do not promise to erase your history: I support you so it stops governing you. If you want to know more about my training in trauma and EMDR, you can get to know me here.
Signs that trauma or insecure attachment may be at work
- ✓ You live in a state of alert: it is hard to relax, as if something bad could happen.
- ✓ You disconnect or "leave" (a sense of unreality, of not being fully present).
- ✓ Your relationships are intense or avoidant: you draw close and pull away, or avoid intimacy.
- ✓ You feel fear of abandonment and, at the same time, fear of depending.
- ✓ You react with an intensity you cannot later understand ("it wasn't that big a deal").
- ✓ Self-demand, guilt or shame run in the background.
- ✓ You find it hard to trust, even with people who are safe.
Would you like some guidance on how you bond? Take the attachment style test (anonymous).
Workshops
Small group spaces to work in depth on specific topics. Limited places; write to me to find out the next dates.
Cognitive training
Attention, memory and regulation: practical tools to sustain focus and reduce mental overload.
Complex trauma
Understanding what complex trauma is, how it shows up, and first tools for stabilisation and self-care.
Attachment
Recognising your attachment style and learning to bond from a safer place, in your relationships today.
Your process can begin with a conversation
Book a first session with no commitment and we will look together at where to start. I am here to support you.
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